What if I told you that the world had been holding out on you? That you have been missing out on one of the most pleasurable experiences that man can have? That there is a way to have mind-blowing sexual experiences, that can make you a better lover, and may even improve your sexual health?
You’d probably ask “What’s the catch?”
The catch is that in order to join the growing number of men benefiting from this knowledge, you need to be evolved enough to overcome any knee-jerk societal bias you might have, and consider with an open mind why every guy (especially straight guys) should try prostate stimulation.
A lot of straight men have been missing out on one of the most pleasurable experiences that a man can have. It’s a toe-curling and eye-opening experience that can make you healthier. Sadly, sex researchers and educators say most men miss out because they’re worried that playing with their own "male g-spot" makes them less manly.1 Not only is there nothing wrong with stimulating your prostate, there’s a lot that's actually right with it.
YOU’RE ALREADY DOING IT (EVEN IF YOU DON’T REALIZE IT).
A man’s prostate is wired to be used for sex-- even if you’re not touching it, it’s a big part of most sexual experiences. Not only is the prostate the male equivalent of a woman’s g-spot,2 the anus is itself an erogenous zone filled with sensitive nerve endings3 that can create pleasure through a variety of stimulation types.
YOUR ASS IS ALREADY INVOLVED IN EVERY ORGASM.
According to clinical sexologist Patti Britton and Masters and Johnson’s legendary sex research, the ass is always involved in sex.4During orgasm our behinds quiver, automatically exciting those nerve endings that communicate with your prostate. Anytime that you or your partner put pressure on your perineum, otherwise known as your taint or gooch, you are externally massaging your prostate, as well. When you directly stimulate your prostate, you’re just expanding on these pleasure sensations. There’s nothing unnatural or abnormal about it.
YOU’RE EXPANDING ON WHAT YOU’RE ALREADY DOING.
The prostate is an active part of sex whether or not you choose to experiment with the pleasure it can bring you. Your prostate acts a bit like a railway junction, directing some of the fluids5 that go through your penis. It closes your seminal ducts when you pee so you don’t lose any semen when you aren’t orgasming (or near orgasm). It also closes the part of the urethra6 leading to the bladder when you cum so you don’t pee during orgasm. Most impressively, the prostate helps your sperm get to their destination by building them up with superfluids and pumping them out. So basically, the prostate is ensuring the survival of the human race. Massaging the prostate can make your orgasm stronger and make your load bigger. According to Bustle,7 a man’s orgasm is roughly 33 percent larger when he works his prostate. Miss out on a prostate orgasm and you might be missing out on the best orgasms of your life.
IT FEELS GREAT.
No two people feel the same thing the same way, however for many men the prostate is a pleasure epicenter. Prostate play canprovide a much deeper, more full-bodied orgasm than ordinary stimulation. When the prostate gets involved, orgasms can last longer, can happen multiple times, and can erupt across the body. The pleasure from a prostate orgasm has become such common knowledge that one doctor, Roy Levin, is trying to figure out8 why stimulating the prostate feels so intense.
IT’S CALLED THE MALE G-SPOT FOR A REASON.
Prior to gestation at about six or seven weeks, male and female fetuses develop identically in utero,9 answering the burning question, "why do men have nipples?" When the Y chromosome induces the development of male genitalia, the cellular makeup doesn't change entirely. Thus, what becomes Skene's glands on a female, becomes the prostate on a male.10
The most commonly accepted theory by scientists and sexologists is that the female g-spot is located within the Skene's glands, which makes sense since the prostate and the Skene’s glands are both major pleasure centers for their respective sexes, and they happen to function similarly enough that one might even call the Skene's glands the "female prostate." Like the prostate pumps out semen during orgasm, the Skene's glands are theorized to be the powerhouse behind female ejaculation.11
PROSTATE MASSAGES CAN PRODUCE EXPLOSIVE ORGASMS.
Since the prostate is the male g-spot, stimulating it can make an orgasm so much more explosive than normal. All of those nerves in the ass and the prostate help extend the orgasm past the pelvis and out to the entire body. Normal orgasms feel great but a prostate orgasm can feel even greater. Not only does it stimulate the whole body, it lasts longer, can happen multiple times, and can feel unique to each man.
YOU’RE PROBABLY MISSING OUT ON THE BIGGEST ORGASMS OF YOUR LIFE!
We’ve already mentioned how a man’s orgasm can grow a third larger than before with the help of the prostate. Missing out on prostate play potentially means missing out on some of the most powerful orgasms of your life. The prostate can feel so good that it can even trigger an orgasm without so much as a finger touching your penis.
IT CAN HELP YOU BE A BETTER LOVER.
GOOD SEX IS ABOUT EMPATHY AND UNDERSTANDING.
Whether you’re having an amazing quickie or hours of panting and moaning, the best sex isn’t just about power or finesse or even endurance. Good sex is all about empathy and understanding. Whatever kind of sex you have, it can always be improved by knowing your partner and your partner knowing you.
LEARN ABOUT HER G-SPOT, BY STIMULATING YOURS.
Knowing your sexual partner means knowing how to get them off, and the truth is most men don’t know a thing about her g-spot. A great way to learn about hers is to play with your own because the g-spot in men and women are so closely related.
Not only do the male and female g-spots have the same cells but the head of the penis has the same cells as the clitoris, and the shaft of the penis has the same cells as the inner labia and the vagina.12 However, that doesn’t mean everything lines up perfectly. Those wonderful cells and nerves that make rubbing your shaft so pleasant are spread further apart than they are in her clitoris and vagina. That means the penis can take more intense stimulation and friction than a vulva.
Clitoral or g-spot orgasms are very different than what a man’s used to if he’s just rubbing his dick. The g-spot in a woman, as well as in a man, can require a slower start, more patience, rhythm, and care than jacking off because the g-spot has more nerves. It can be a big turn-off if you rub the g-spot too hard and overstimulate it!
The prostate or male g-spot has a tight bunch of cells and nerves, like in the female g-spot or clitoris, making it feel more sensitive to touch. Rubbing your own g-spot can help you understand how to hit her sensitive spots without going overboard.
You can also learn some of the different signs that distinguish external--clitoral or penile-- orgasm and an internal--g-spot--orgasm. When you know the signs to both, as well as the methods to extract them, you can give your lover an awesome simultaneous internal and external orgasm. Using your own g-spot is a great way to learn more about sex with a partner while also spicing up your masturbation habits.
IT’S A GREAT WAY TO SPICE UP YOUR LOVE LIFE.
Starting with a simple and normal prostate massage can also help you determine if you’d like to spice up your love life later. Men who massage their prostates may not choose to go past that point but, if you’re curious about mixing up your sex life, a prostate massage is a safe and easy place to start. From there you might find yourself more open to some kinky fun - like pegging, strap-ons, or even light bondage.
IT CAN HELP YOUR HEALTH.
THE PROSTATE PLAYS A CRUCIAL ROLE IN MEN’S HEALTH.
The prostate also plays a crucial role in men’s health and early research shows that playing with your prostate can help keep it healthy. That’s important because an unhealthy prostate can cause serious problems and prostate play can help keep those problems at bay. Medical News Today links13 a prostate infection (prostatitis) to having to pee often, difficulty peeing, difficulty ejaculating, erectile dysfunction, and even back and groin pain. That’s not touching more serious issues like prostate cancer!
PROSTATE PLAY KEEPS THE DOCTOR AWAY.
Sex educator Charlie Glickman explained 14 how a prostate massage helps your prostate health. Glickman says the massage increases blood flow to the prostate and clears out the glands on the prostate. A prostate massage can disrupt a “biofilm” - a shield of bacteria. That means that if you do need antibacterial medication for a prostate problem, a proper prostate massage could help the medicine do its job.
On top of that, the Sperling Prostate Center reports that prostate massages can reduce the risk of prostate cancer.15 Doctor of physical therapy Susie Gronski told Vice that a prostate massage is like “decongesting the pelvis” by increasing blood flow.16 Increased blood flow from massages could also improve your general prostate health and keep the doctor away - according to Harvard University.17
PROSTATE MASSAGES CAN IMPROVE QUALITY OF LIFE.
Research on prostate massages and milking suggests it could alleviate symptoms of bad prostate health. One study 18 took a look at 26 men who agreed to prostate massage therapy. The study found “there was a significant decrease in average symptom severity.” Prostate massages helped alleviate the symptoms of patients with prostate problems. Another study 19 of 90 men showed similar results. The men in the study used a patented prostate massager two or three times a week to help heal and reduce the size of their prostates. Symptoms of pain and discomfort shrank by 44.2% while urination issues declined by 41.99%. The study reported that quality of life improved by 42.45%!
IT’S MORE COMMON THAN YOU THINK.
With so many benefits, it’s no wonder that prostate massages and prostate milking are more popular than many men think. Our own prostate massager sales data shows a big increase in purchases. Some sex educators, like Sunny Megatron, note that their articles and lessons on prostate play are getting more and more attention.20 One study on heterosexual anal sex found that, out of a sample 1,500, 24% of straight men had experimented with their backdoor.21
GET THE RIGHT TOOLS FOR THE JOB.
After reading so much about why prostate orgasms kick ass you might be ready to dive right in to exploring the pleasures of your prostate. If you are, great! We have all the tools you need to make your first prostate orgasms memorable, fun, and easy.
STARTER KITS AND BEADS FOR STARTERS.
The classic anal trainer set makes for a great place to start. The graduated size butt plugs can help you set the pace for your prostate and let you ramp up as you see fit. Anal beads can also be a great beginner’s tool since they tend to be pretty small. Plus, you can easily set how far you want to go with them based off of how many of the beads you use. They can also be easier to pull out than other toys because they’re smooth all around.
RAMP UP WITH PROSTATE MASSAGERS.
Small, prostate-specific toys like prostate massagers. Prostate massagers will feel better than other toys (and even fingers) because they’re designed for men. You can also have a lot of fun with prostate stimulators and vibrating toys that have more dynamic ways of creating pleasure.
REMEMBER THE LUBE.
Most importantly, don’t forget the lube! Since the anus doesn’t lubricate on it’s own, you have to help it out and lubricate your toys and ass thoroughly. There are tons of different types of lubes, each with their own benefits. Silicone lube can last a long time and be good for sensitive skin, but should not be used with silicone toys! While not as long lasting as silicone, water-based and hybrid lube is safe to use with almost every sex toy.
TAKE IT TO THE SHEETS!
With all the strokers, penis pumps, and cock rings available to enhance the male sexual experience, it seems a shame to not treat the prostate to the extra excitement that sex toys bring to the bedroom. If you're curious about where to start, Healthy&Active offers a wide range of anal toys in all sizes, materials, and shapes. Planning on exploring prostate play with your partner? Browse the site together, and don't forget to treat her to something fun as well!